http://life-horizons.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/dirt-that-others-put-on-us.png 640 428 [email protected] http://life-horizons.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/life-horizons-coaching-logo-small.jpg [email protected]2015-10-30 23:38:232015-10-30 23:48:51You are not rubbish, you are just dirty
You are not rubbish, you are just dirty.
The dignity of the human person is immense, but we all struggle to really fathom the value of one life let alone ourselves. Christians need to have a better understanding of this than others because as Saint Paul says "we are already the children of God". In life though we come up against many blockages to the sense of our true value and dignity and the value and dignity of others. The hurt and unresolved emotions we hold on to can bury us in judgement and condemning of ourselves and others. In such times Jesus wants to come to us, he is the best person I know for seeing the value of a single life. For it is those who see our value that can help us the most. They are the ones that look past our hurt and self condemnation to see our true value. It is through these people who see our value, we can then let go of the hurt and pain we hold on to because we think we have to find the answer to it. The answer is that we are of immense value and the dirt we collect does not need to cling to us.
Set boundaries to those who dirty you
Once you have a clean clear image of your true value, protect it from those who dirty it. Imagine a speaker on a stage about to invite another person on the stage, but they are totally appalled by this person they are inviting up. They say how draining they are and annoying. Now imagine that person coming on to the stage, what do they look like to you, what would they be wearing? Now imagine the speaker talking about someone who is really gifted and beautiful and just amazing to be with. Imagine that person coming on the stage, what do they look like to you. Notice how easy it is to project our judgement onto the other person. We are hurt by people we meet that see us like that first person, like rubbish. We can then react to the clothes and dirt that person has given us, but if we know our true value, we need not react, we can stand for our dignity. Because the real sadness is that the speaker was unable to comment on one good thing about that first person, that is the real sadness, he couldn't see another's value. Now the first person coming on stage could be in a rage and want to kill that speaker, but that would be his fault because he would be accepting the lie, the projection of the speaker. Stop accepting the lie. Accept your value and say thanks for the introduction but it's sad you don't see my value and hope for improvement. Wash yourselves clean of such people for they have dirty perceptions, dirty eyes. Rather surround yourself with people who love the dignity of others and see with eyes of gratitude.
Be pure like Jesus
So Saint Paul invites us who see our true value as children of God and who entertain the hope of heaven to be pure like Jesus is. One of the greatest teaching of Jesus, of his mission and purpose can be found in the beatitudes. "Blessed are the poor in spirit" those hunger for the spirit of unity, of connection, of love of life. "Blessed are the gentle" those that do not react to every injustice with murder. "Blessed are those that mourn" that see the dignit of others and are saddened that many do not see it. "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for what is right" they work for good. "Blessed are the merciful" they see the value of each person and what is possible for them in their life. "Blessed are the pure in heart" they only live for the good to flourish and never use others as objects to their pleasure. "Blessed are the peace makers" they see there is no wars just opportunities to understand each other and grow together. "Blessed are those who are persecuted for what is right" they are working hard for good to flourish. Jesus really lived these values even to his bloody death. He shows us that no matter what, hold true to your value and dignity, your are loved and you are valuable, you need not find a solution to the dirt that people put on you. Free yourself from it.