Growing up I never put much energy into writing goals or setting outcomes. I was more interested in the journey, what will happen on the way. It was never about reaching my destination it was all about the process.
The problem with this pattern of behaviour, is in making important decisions. Like, what kind of career I should take on, what type of person I would like to meet. I remember at one point in my life watching “The Simpsons” while deciding what careers to enrol in university, I was more interested in getting back to the TV. It was like I was waiting for someone else to lead me, someone else who knew me.
My wake up call came when after studying two years and working for three years in a job that didn’t suit me and feeling emotionally drained and worn out, I then realised that I put myself here at this destination because I failed to consider one important thing:
To Know Thyself.
It can sound like a very pious saying, to know yourself. After all the Ancient Greeks have been saying it all the time. Socrates refers to the sages of long ago being renowned for their concise words: “All these were enthusiasts, lovers and disciples of the Spartan culture; and you can recognize that character in their wisdom by the short, memorable sayings that fell from each of them they assembled together”. One such saying was “know thyself”.
So if the Ancient Greeks have been saying it, I realised it might be important for me to consider.
Now to know thyself you need to start by understanding:
- What your personality type is. There are many personality profile systems Myers briggs is one. I really like the DISC profile and there is a new one to come out called Meta Dynamics which is gaining interest?
- What your likes are, dislikes, hobbies?
- What makes you happy, do you like working with people or with things or systems?
- What are the things you are good at?
- What do you love about the world?
- What do you do to relax?
- What are your values?
- What are your main needs, security, significance, love and connection, adventure?
- Also ask others about you: What they consider you’re good at, bad at, could improve?
The list above is the foundation for knowing self, the next stage, is writing down what your dreams are, your purpose your outcomes in life? What standards you are living to?
If you make it to this stage you have done fairly well. But it doesn’t stop there. Because to know thyself is an ongoing thing. Did you know that what meaning you give to events and your responses to these events and people, give you lots of information about yourself. It reveals how you interpret your world. To take control of how you interpret your world will change everything.
Things do not change; we change.
Henry David Thoreau
Join me on this journey of knowing thyself and learn valuable lessons that will impact your life forever.